Welcome to The Epic! I am launching this blog as a manifesto for and a guide to living well. The title and motto of the blog are taken from the Epicureans, at least some of whom believed in the notion that not one minute of the future was guaranteed to them and that as a result they had the duty to live life to its fullest every moment.

I believe in discovering fun and pleasurable things wherever I find myself each day and I am told I have a knack for unearthing them. My hope is that by sharing in my pleasures and some of my ways of finding them you will begin to collect all the riches that lie in the moments of your life. They are there. Take them! All our lives should be.....Epic.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Heavy Restaurant Silver

Another evening away. A rather late evening, at that. The waiter brought me one of my favorite dishes. Grilled Pompano with shrimp and scallops, all delicately laced with dill. As I enjoyed the aroma of the food, my glass was refilled with Sancerre from a bottle in the damp silver bucket at my elbow. Despite my surroundings, I was exhausted after a long day and more than a little aware that nobody else was sitting at my table.

As I picked up my fork, the burnished silver of it caught my eye. Not new. Not in a very long time. The entire silver service at this wonderful establishment had the glow of history. A history of good and happy use.

Funny how a simple fork can reverse the course of an otherwise solitary evening and turn it joyful if you look at it in the right way. The cycle of use, tarnishing, polishing and reuse had placed this implement of memory right in my hand. The good things have a way of doing that. They do not have to be expensive to have this effect. Just good. I let my mind wander, no doubt assisted by the Sancerre, to the wedding proposals, birthdays, anniversaries, victory celebrations and perhaps even a wake or two in which this silver service had no doubt been a silent participant over the years. I thought of the direct transmission of those events and of the people participating in them from their time to mine, to me, via the utensil I was holding. In the place of a modestly attended mid-week dining room, glasses clinked and ladies and gentlemen quietly laughed with their faces close together while corks popped.

Aristotle wrote that everything grows old under the power of time and is forgotten. I would beg to disagree. Certainly time ages everything. That is what the passage of time is for. But everything is not forgotten. Timeless things remain, sometimes right before us. Things that can bring us at least a little of the loveliness of times past to brighten our days. Or our nights. Some of those things are around you right now. Look about and see.

I took a bite of my food. Toasted Aristotle. And smiled. Warmed by the fine company in which I was dining.


Petunia said...


M.Lane said...

"To Life", indeed! A fine sub-motto for The Epic!! And one of my favorite songs from Fiddler on the Roof.


Ben said...

What a wonderful reflection (double meaning there).

~Tessa~Scoffs said...

Beautiful post. Old silver is one of life's greatest pleasures. I've eaten out a few times this last week (unusual, for me) and I have been witness to no less than three grown men wearing baseball caps at their restaurant tables.

M.Lane said...

Ben, great pun!

Mrs. Scoffs, I feel your pain. At least you got to dine out.

Thanks as always for your visits and comments!


Easy and Elegant Life said...

I have a friend who collects hotel silver/restaurant silver and uses it whenever a buffet is laid on for a number of guests. It is a pleasure to use and goes well with the antique damask napkins. And you don't have to worry about the family silver being dropped down the disposal at clean up.

heavy tweed jacket said...

Indeed. Over time, things take on a life of their own. Objects that we become mere custodians of attest to those whom we may never have known, but who also were part of the life of an object. Sometimes we can get shown the light if we look at things in a certain light - the Sancerre probably helps a bit, too.

M.Lane said...

Easy, I never thought about restaurant silver being useful in that way!

HTJ, the Sancerre ALWAYS helps!!

Thanks for the visits!